“your way’s nice, my way’s quicker”
I miss college. Not, of course, classes or any of that nonsense. Don’t get me wrong, i did love that part of college most of the time i was there, but i do not miss it. I miss the social part. I miss it being easy to meet people. Moreover, i miss it being easy to meet awesome people, people with whom i related well. I miss living within a 5 minute walk of the majority of my friends.
The “real world” doesn’t work the same way, far as i can tell. In the real world, most people have been there for a while – they already have a posse, and they aren’t actively looking for people to meet. This is not to say that people are rude or anything, just that they are not as wide open to anyone new as people often were in college. In the real world people have schedules and families and time constraints. Which is odd, because most of us did quite a bit of work in college – we really were similarly busy. But the culture is different. In the real world you have to make arrangements. As compared to knocking on your buddy’s dorm door and just sitting down and hanging out (or going “oh, you’re busy” and moving on).
So, how the hell do you meet people out here? This is partly related to Essin’ Em’s question about how the hell you meet a woman(etc.) Because i am totally looking for sex. But i am also still trying to figure out how to make friends.
Which is not to say that i don’t have friends – i do have a circle, but it is still fairly loose. I’ve found great people that i like and have fun with, but i haven’t really found people i click with. Or maybe i just haven’t had time to click with the people i do know? I’ll hold that as a possibility, but it’s always been so obvious in the past.
Also, Jake has been trying to give me advice on picking up women. This is something she is very good at, so maybe it’s good advice. But she is outgoing and charming, whereas i am afraid of people, so her advice tends to amount to near-impossible for me. These conversations usually make my grumpy, because i do not like it when people tell me that what i am failing to do is easy.
“Flowers and Liquor” – Hayes Carll