“i want gravy on everything”
I was toying with the fact that i’ve never been attracted to what i suppose you would call conventional beauty. Which is not to say that i don’t judge people on their looks; that there aren’t people i find dead fuckin’ sexy based on nothing but what i see – there so are. They just aren’t “pretty” people. So i’ve always kind of wondered what it is i’m missing – like the whole world is in on this joke, and i just don’t get it. Or, more accurately, that i do get it and i don’t think it’s funny.
Okay, whatever, to each his own and all that, it certainly isn’t the sort of thing that matters.
But what popped into my head thinking about it was kind of fun. Which is that conventional beauty is based on flawlessness. It’s based on not having “negative” qualities (what qualities a culture calls negative is another bag of worms). It’s a very deficit-oriented view of beauty – that is, there is this list of things that makes you “ugly” and if you can avoid all of them, then you are beautiful. Except that not having negative features is not the same as having positive features.
So, that’s my little lightbulb moment, enjoy.
“Wintertime Blues” – John Hiatt