“I love you darlin’ and the lines around your eyes”
In the midst of surfing the NY Times for real news i ran across this: Is Looking Your Age Now Taboo?
It reminds me of something my father said once about there being different types of beauty. I don’t remember exactly what it was, but the idea is that people can be beautiful in different ways – indeed, i think perhaps people are only beautiful because they look different from one another. What i’m trying to say is that beauty means something entirely different at 25 than at 50, so that while it seems clear that a 25-year-old who looks twice her age is not attractive, the same is really true of a 50-year-old who is trying to look half hers – even if she is rather successful.
Part of my problem is this youth worship shit, but my other problem is the god complex side of it. “Oh, gee, i don’t like the way my nose looks, so i’ll just make it look some other way.” It is like creating a false self-confidence; rather than being okay with who i am, i am going to make myself into someone i am okay with. (Now i’m opening a whole different can of worms, but i think i will delve into it at another time.) Perhaps before you try to change yourself, you ought to simply take care of yourself – it’s more successful anyhow.
From the personal end of things i can’t make head nor tail of it. I deeply believe in taking things as they come. And personally, i find people who age gracefully far more attractive than those who don’t.
I think that my grandmother is one of the most beautiful women i know, in an 80-something-year-old way; i know people twice my age who are sexy; and i started getting grey hairs at 18, so you can quit your bitching!
“Lines Around Your Eyes” – Lucinda Williams